Wednesday, April 13, 2011

AHHA Moments

So...years ago when Quinn was a baby, I had friends who would tell me that they couldn't get anything done during the day and had to clean the house at midnight. At the time, I just didn't get it. I thought, "Really? I manage to get my work done and still function during daylight hours, why can't you? You must be doing something wrong."

Well.....I get it now. Between all the running around I do with the kids and just your regular run of the mill errands, I fail to even get breakfast dishes done before dinner and beds made before school's out (and then what's the point, they'll be back in them in a matter of hours!). I barely get laundry done these days and whereas I used to pride myself on managing to keep the play room neat, nowadays, I am lucky to shove all of its contents back into the space they belong and putting them away is a thing of the past. Why? Well, I have three year olds. Not only that, but three year olds who don't nap make for double the amount of trouble and mischief.

Now that the weather is nice, they want to be outside all the time. I love that, but I can't be out there all the time with them and still try to accomplish something inside. So, I crack the door open to hear them, stay on the main floor for my chores (which is why beds never get made) and constantly yell out the door and step on the deck saying, "You guys okay out there?" On top of that, I send up a little prayer that no bones are broken while I'm not being super vigilant and that they come back in one piece, well two pieces - one Hayden and one William.

Don't get me wrong. I am complaining, but I do love it. I love this time in my life and I know that I will miss it like I miss the baby stage. I barely remember them trying to walk, crawl, or talk. It's a blur. But, the down side to this time is that the only time during the day I can actually do something and have it stay the way I left it for more than five minutes is after they go to bed. So, whereas once upon a time, I was not cleaning at midnight, now I am. The other downside is I'm freakin' tired! Off to read, put them to bed, say prayers, kisses goodnight and then on to the daily chores (i.e. laundry, dishes, vacuuming, dusting, straightening). But before that, an injury just occurred, so gotta go kiss a boo boo first. This is the life. Wanna trade? (just kidding!)

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

It's a vicious cycle....

Well, giving up FB was actually easier than I expected. I do miss seeing what's going on sometimes but my whole purpose in giving it up was to actually reclaim all the time I spent on it and be more productive. Has that worked? Nope. Now, instead of stalking FB updates, I stalk my email IN box. I am going to get carpel tunnel as often as I flick my wrist on my mouse to hit "send/receive". I almost feel dejected when an email doesn't pop up to respond to. Oh well, from one vice to another.

Spring and Fall are my favorite times of year for weather, but my least favorite for one other activity that is simply the activity from "hell". I hate switching clothes out of the kids' closets. It's a complete nuisance. Between all four, I just filled 9 laundry baskets and have a stack of hanging items. Now, I have to drag all of that to the basement, resort (or file) every item in the correct box and make sure it's labelled properly (i.e. 4T Winter, 10-12 Winter, 6-6x Winter). Then I need to pull out those pieces that are either never going to be worn again because I don't like it anymore, are so worn they aren't worth wearing, or have finally trickled down through neices and my girls to the point past Hayden where they are garage sale worthy. But, that's only half the job.

From this point, I should have 9 empty laundry baskets. The good thing about this part is that for the most part William doesn't have anything for the next season and neither does Quinn. Being the oldest and only boy, they get new wardrobe pieces all the time. Lucky ducks. There are a handful of things that Quinn needs to try on though (i.e. PJs, dresses) and see if we can get another year out of them. That leaves sorting through Lydia and Hayden's boxes. It is actually kind of fun to see some of the dresses and summer wear that Quinn wore and remember it going through the kids and now into Hayden's closet, but for the most part, still a chore.

Okay, that's good to a point, but I haven't tackled swim wear and shoes. Every year sorting through summer shoes and dress shoes is an ordeal. Again, Will has nothing, but the younger two have a Payless Store in the basement of footwear to try on. Swimwear takes no time, but it still takes time to see what lycra has given out and what sizes we have to work with and then decide who needs what purchased.

Finally, after much procrastination and a good couple days, I will have dragged all those baskets back upstairs and started re-filing clothes into closets. There is a sense of accomplishment when all this is done until I remember, oh yeah - I have to do my closet too! It's a vicious cycle.

Friday, March 11, 2011

Post one, post faceboook

I'm a couple days out without facebook and truthfully - I miss it, but it's not as big of a deal as I thought it might be. Now, I gave up soda as well and that one - I'm about to knaw my arm off for a diet coke. I'm sorry, but crystal light lemonade, rasberry lemonade, orange drink and pomegranate lemonade is just not the same as a diet caffeine free coke.

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Givin' it up

So, I've come to the realization that I have an addiction. I'm working on weaning myself off, but it is hard. I am less productive because of it and I'm definitely excited by it. My husband jokes that I have a boyfriend. Yes, people, it's Facebook and my email.

I just saw a news report on this phenom and it's frightening how much time people spend social networking. My phone is silent at home because my friends email me. My mailbox is pretty empty (except for advertising) because no one writes letters anymore. It's pretty sad, really.

What to do?

Well, I'm contemplating a separation period. Email is a necessity due to school activities and what not, but Facebook is definitely not a do or die thing. I think for Lent, one of my sacrifices, will be to give it up completely. 40 days of peace - not waiting for a response to a witty post or writing a response to someone else's post. It sounds pretty good, really.

I will be connecting on email still - but I won't be responding to facebook email/messages. So, we'll see if I get the shakes, have withdrawals, take up a new addiction - like texting. I don't really do that right now. I think I've sent 6 texts my entire life.

We'll see! Should be interesting. I thought to myself, though, if I spent as much time praying as I do on Facebook, I'd be spending my time much more wisely.

Monday, February 14, 2011

Dryer Woes

So, a day without laundry in this house is like a day without sun. It just never happens unless your dryer dies on you? Then all laundry comes to a swift halt. As nice as it has been to be laundriless for a day, the piles are starting to crawl out of their baskets and onto the laundry room floor - as my baskets overfloweth. Granted, they were starting to get that way yesterday which was why I was trying to do laundry when the dryer died. It must have looked at the work to be done and keeled over. Chicken, I say, coward!

So, we're getting a new dryer at some point this week. Now begins the research, the debating, the price checking, the hemming and hawing over which one to get. Me, I want BIG and I would like the door to drop down, not swing out. I'll probably have to settle for a little larger than what I have and a door that swings side to side.

Oh well! C'est la vie.

I hope you are having a great Valentine's Day. I had an epiphany yesterday thinking about a woman I knew on a casual basis who passed away two days ago. She was a grandma to a friend of Quinn's and when the two of them were in preschool together this lady would help me haul the twins and Lydia into and out of school on occassion. Those few minutes of her time have still hung with me. She made a difference for me in that moment.

I realized that life isn't about how many achievements we have, or how many books we've written, awards we have won, or even organizations we belong too, it's about throwing yourself in the pond of life and watching the ripples go out as far as they can. The higher you jump from, the more ripples you make, so if you take a few risks (going higher), you'll make a bigger impact on those little ripples. This analogy is pretty cliche, I realize that. But my ephiphany was that when I go, I want my ripples to go far and wide. I want my legacy to be that I helped someone drag three little ones into a preschool or that I held a door for someone when they had their hands full. Service. It's about putting someone else first (which I always knew). It's about making each groove in the pond of ripples count.

So, I challenge you, jump from a great height into that pond and those moments you are underwater, holding your breath, look around, hear the silence, then kick with your feet and burst through the surface letting shards of water break the congruity of those ripples. That's the spice of life. Nothing is perfect, but dang, make it fun and make it count. What's the point if we don't?

Happy Hearts Day People!

XOXOXOXOXO

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

First off, belated Happy New Year.

Here's the scoop.

The kids haven't had a full week of school since mid-December due to snow days and vacation. We're really pulling for a full five days of class this week. Because of this, I feel like I live in a time warp. I'm not sure what day it is half the time and my routine has been compromised (which as we all know, my life is dictated by).

In my head, snow days are so Norman Rockwell. We get up, I make a great breakfast, we gear up and sled, music is playing in the trees, the birds are singing, we come in to a planned crafty activity that will certainly create lasting memories of bliss filled snow days. Then we hunker down by a cozy fire and read poetry, play music, and settle into our respective quiet pasttimes (cross stitch, a card game, knitting). In the end the kids climb the stairs sayin, "night ma, night pa" like Little House on the Prairie. (Of course, I'm exaggerating).

Instead, a REAL snow day is, everyone is up early, except me who thinks "where do we have to rush to, let's stay in our cozy beds". Next the kids shove down a bowl of cocoa puffs and start begging, "can we go outside?" until I cave in about 10:00 am. In the meantime, though, they've already spilled two cups of milk, destroyed the living room and playroom, colored, painted, watched TV, and had two or three arguments. So, after I cave in, we get geared up. 45 minutes later we are ready to go outside. 10 minutes later we're back in and they announce that they are indeed, "bored".

Lunchtime rolls around and nobody is happy with what I have on hand (which, albeit, is usually not that much), so they complain until I practically throw the jar of peanut butter at their heads. Finally, naptime for the twins. 1:00pm. Of course, that is hit or miss and lately, more miss. They run between their rooms, play, jump around, laugh (not too much napping happening there) until one may crash out. If I'm lucky, they both fall asleep. Then I tell the older two to read in their room and play quietly. For about 20 minutes, I can quickly reassemble the house and think, "what is for dinner?". Soooner than later, someone is again, "bored" and/or just picked on someone else and we are back to "you're grounded, you're in time out, you'd better go upstairs or I will scream".

Finally, the dinner hour arrives. We muddle through, pray it's not a bath night, and hope Carl can get home from work at a decent time because when he walks in, I say, "tag, you're it!".

That's pretty much what has been going on around here. How bout you? Been busy?

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Some days, I have no where else to go but into the blank page of a new blog post that just welcomes my tears and sadness. It doesn't judge me or try to comfort me, it just lets me get it out and move on to the next minute.

I find that the closer I get to Christmas, the more I'm blubbering. Every little thing sets me off. A Christmas card that someone writes in. A commercial. A news clip about a Dad surprising his daughter in school arriving home from deployment. It all hits me.

I am so blessed. My kids are so psyched about Christmas. It's awesome. They all "get" it this year. It's going to be a great morning.

I wish, with all my heart, that the only thing waiting for me on Christmas morning was the phone call from him wishing us well before we get together to open gifts later in the afternoon. We used to call in the morning and wish each other Merry Christmas. He loved Christmas.

I know so many people struggling this Christmas with family illness and job loss, countless other things too - and I'm not belitting those worries, they were mine and some still are, but if you have a loved one with you this season - be so thankful, be so grateful for the time you have with them. Don't think about what might happen, what could happen next year, just love them and be with them. Enjoy the moment. I would do almost anything for those moments again.

They always say the first year of "Firsts" is the hardest. I'm beginning to see why. There are a lot of times I have to remind myself that he is gone. There are so many days, I go about my business and it hits me that he's not there to call. I talk to him in my head all the time. Crazy? Probably.

I'll continue to blubber and I'll continue to talk to my Dad in my head and I'll get through Christmas. Not only "get through", but enjoy it. I'll enjoy my kids. Dad would expect no less. He would probably be mad at me for getting upset right now. He would say, "come on kid, buck up!". Gonna do that, in about two more kleenexes.

Saturday, December 18, 2010

Christmas Letter 2010

Dear Friends & Family,

In a year so filled with ups and downs culminating ultimately in extreme grief one late August evening with the passing of my Dad from leukemia, we struggled with what to say this year, or to even say anything at all. So, with that, we debated on this letter. Carl offered to write it for us and I was conceding. I wasn’t sure what good was to be remembered about 2010, but upon thinking more, I realized, there was so much. So many blessings to recall, so many people to thank, it was a year full of unexpected sadness coupled with a year full of love and generosity, faith and friendship. So, here we go.

Quinn turned 8 in February, a week after my Dad’s diagnosis. She continued in dance this year, made her First Communion with all her family and Grandparents present in May, joined the Fenton Swim team and had her dance recital in June. She played softball again, too. In August, she started third grade and volleyball right after that. Her latest sports endeavor is basketball this winter. She has grown into a tall, tweenie bopper with bangs that are growing out and in her eyes (just to drive me crazy). I’m sure, she will continue to “delight” us in the coming year.

Lydia turned 5 in May. She also continued in dance this year having her recital with Quinn in June. She played softball for the second year in a row and took swimming lessons this summer. In August, she started kindergarten! She continued speech twice a week at school and also became a Daisy Girl Scout with Mom as one of her leaders. She never ceases to amaze us as she grows into such an independent little girl.

William and Hayden turned three in July. We visited Dad that day in the hospital so he could give them their presents. They took swim lessons this summer and got carted around to softball practices, swim meets and the like – as usual. In August, they started their second year of preschool and they LOVE IT. William also continued in a speech program. They started Dance with their big sisters in September. Who knows if William will continue into the next year with it, but he has enjoyed it so far. They are growing up way too fast for us!

Throughout this year, we’ve had friends and family helping us to get by – babysitting for us so we could be with my Dad as much as possible. We’ll never forget those gifts because it gave us such a treasure - time. People prayed for us, for my family, sent their blessings, sent cards, called, brought food, and visited. In life’s journey we all struggle with various circumstances, but to have a year like ours from the start and to end with the joyous and blessed season of Christmas, we feel a little like the wise men searching for a star, wondering what will happen to us next, and asking where do we go from here; a little lost. We choose to focus on the blessings of the season and more than anything, the love we have to give one another, here and now. My heart is comforted knowing that my fiercest guardian on earth is now in heaven. My Dad, is watching over my children throughout their days now, so in closing we say God Bless, Merry Christmas. We wish the spirits of your past to visit you this season bearing gifts of glory from heaven, memories of wonderful days gone by, and hope for the future. I know my Dad’s spirit will be with us throughout. Love ya, Dad.

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Dear Blog

Dear Blog,

I have not abandoned you. It may seem like it, but really I've been ignoring you like my three year old does when the TV is on and he's watching Dinosaur Train. I haven't really been inattentive, you've been in the back of my mind lately, but I've been busy.

I've had friends having babies, kids running to and fro and the onset of the holiday season has stripped me of my free time to write with you. On top of that, silly me, I thought we could redecorate the three kids' rooms and move the four of them all around. What a silly notion!? My upstairs looks like a tornado hit.

Decorating for Christmas may not even happen at this rate. You should not feel too bad, though, I've also been ignoring my craft addiction and all the projects I thought I would have time for this year too, especially for gifts. Oh well.

Today, I'm doing laundry in droves and in slips thoughts of my Dad to wreck my okay mood on the eve of Thanksgiving. I'm not feeling too thankful, but I know I have a lot to be grateful for.

Let's go with that.

I'm thankful for...

My kids
My husband
My family
My dog
My faith
My friends

Well, that's it for now. Hope to see you before 2011. We'll see how the month goes from here.

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

November already and 2010 can't end fast enough

Ever feel like - How did I get here already? I mean, where did my year go? I can barely remember yesterday and I wonder where did the 10 months before it go?

Trick or Treating went great! The kids had a lot of fun!

I feel like the next two months will fly by and as much as I kind of wish they would so I can just "get through" it, I also have so much to do, that I need MORE TIME.

I guess everyone feels like that with the holidays. I wish I could be more excited for them and more geared up to go out and spread cheer, but I could really care less right now.

Hopefully, I'll find that Holiday spirit somewhere along the way.

Maybe it's too early still.

I have a lot of prayers going up lately. First - my friends with cancer in their lives (whether it's their own or a relatives) - all my blessings and prayers to you. Second, and as importantly, to my friends the Welsch's - God Bless that baby you'll be bringing home soon! Can't wait to hear about your son's arrival.

The only funny story I have to relate was Quinn's Saint presentation she gave on Monday in PSR. She chose St. Elizabeth of Hungary. She insisted the Saint was St. Elizabeth of the Hungry because she fed the poor. It took all my convincing to get her to believe Hungary is a country and that's why she is "of Hungary". Her report even had that in it ! The main reason she chose her was because she was a Princess and it's my middle name. It was pretty funny, though!

November Blessings to you!